Week Eleven
I liked this week's study because I love family. Sometimes I think that family is "my calling" in life.
I also realized that I am really bad at resting. I am an anxious person and am always needing to do something. That's why I love to have a job and struggle now that I am a stay-at-home mom. I find myself making bad habits. I am constantly distracting myself to appease my busy mind. I am also always multitasking, when I know that studies show multitasking to actually be less productive. If I could just focus my attention and learn to master the tasks and enjoy the work, I would be much happier. I tend to create a long list of little things to do, and then sit down and surf the internet or facebook. It starts out as a productive thing, such as sending a message to my visiting teaching companion, or looking up youtube videos for tips on how to organize a cleaning closet or cook a chicken dinner, but it ends up taking too much time and attention, as I just get more and more distracted.
I have also though a lot this week about how to organizing my time. I tend to get absorbed into projects and don't want any interruptions whatsoever. Now that I have a new baby, I get interrupted all the time. I'm learning how to balance my schedule.
Journal questions:
Rule 1. Seek the Lord and have hope in him
Rule 2. Keep the commandments, that includes the temporal ones, tithing and fast offerings.
Rule 3. Think about money and plan how you can become self-reliant.
Rule 4. Take advantage of chances for learning so you will not be ignorant of these matters. Education, as President Hinckley has taught us, is the Key to Opportunity.
Rule 5. Learn the laws upon which the blessings of wealth are predicated.
Rule 6. Do not send away the naked, the hungry, the thirsty or the sick or those who are held captive.
Acton
I also get obsessive when I start any project. I don't want to be interrupted. I'll get so far into a "flow" that sometimes I forget to eat, or drink water, or I even ignore the need to go to the bathroom. When I finally take a break, I don't know what to do with myself, use the restroom, eat, or sleep. This is especially tricky now that I have a new baby. They tend to interrupt a lot. I'm learning how to function under these new conditions.
Thomas s. Monson - Formula for success
shared couplet - "You do not find truth groveling through error. You find truth by searching the holy word of God.
"Let us turn to a news release I once read from Los Angeles: “A blind father rescued his tiny daughter from drowning in the new swimming pool that had been installed in the neighborhood.” Then the story went on to describe just how this had been accomplished. The blind father had heard a splash when his little girl, who could not swim, fell into the pool. He was frantic and wondered how he might help her. It was evening, and she was the only one in the pool. He got upon his hands and knees and crawled around the outside edge of the pool and listened for the air bubbles that came from that little girl, as she was actually in the process of drowning. Then, with a heightened sense of hearing, he followed carefully the sound of those air bubbles and, in one desperate attempt, with love in his heart and a prayer within his soul, he jumped into the pool and grasped his precious daughter and brought her to the side and to safety. Love prompts such miracles."
First, fill your mind with truth; second, fill your life with service; and third, fill your heart with love.
Acton Continuing to seek challenges and having friends of all ages is much more important than income.
"Sensual pleasures—good food, drink and sex—can bring great joy to life. But these are treats that must be sampled sparingly, because enjoyment drops off sharply if the experiences are repeated too frequently. The first taste of an ice cream cone can bring intense pleasure; the last spoonful from a gallon of ice cream may leave you feeling disgusted."
As Shakespeare noted: “Things won are done; joy’s soul lies in the doing.”
"Once pleasure becomes an end in itself, rather than a byproduct of a life well lived, unbridled hedonism transforms sensual cravings into empty habits, and finally, leads to destructive addictions."
"Studies show that the effects of even major life changes will fade within three months."
"Within weeks, even major lottery winners are no happier than they were before winning."
"we routinely predict that as individuals we will be happier in the future."
"We tend to enjoy being victims. We focus on slights and magnify pain until we are obsessed with past hurts instead of future possibilities. We go to therapists and focus on ourselves and our past, for hours and years on end, even though studies show psychotherapy provides little benefit and that there is no measurable effect from traumatic childhood events on our adult lives. “What goes right in childhood predicts the future far better than what goes wrong,” unless we insist on feeding painful thoughts. We may feel we cannot get bad thoughts out of our minds, but studies show that “emotions, left to themselves, will dissipate” and you will return to your inherited baseline of happiness."
"We seek unconditional love but rarely offer the same in return. Instead, we prefer to compare ourselves to others in ways that make us feel superior. We are masters at rationalization and prone to hypocrisy."
This real-world Hero’s Journey is about being of the world (understanding where you come from); being in the world (understanding the world as it is and others as they are); and being above the world (connecting with the transcendent)
"During flow, people became so absorbed in the task that they lost track of time. Hours passed without notice. Concern for self disappeared"
We like challenges, particularly those that play to our strengths.
"Always have friends from three generations: the generation below to add freshness and energy, your generation for understanding and companionship, and a generation older for perspective and wisdom."
"Those who look back on life with a strong sense of gratitude are more likely to recognize and seize an opportunity when it presents itself."
People who volunteer and give to charity are happier, more satisfied and more fulfilled than those who do not
"The afterglow of pleasurable activities (hanging out with friends, or watching a movie, or eating a hot fudge sundae) pales in comparison with the effects of a kind gesture. Research shows that when spontaneous charitable acts reinforce personal virtues, your whole day goes better. "
Despite what you hear on television and during political campaigns, Americans are the most generous people on the planet. Generosity is one of our most widely held values; in any given year, 89% of us will contribute money or volunteer in the service of others; most will do both...Those who advocate government redistribution turn out to give far less to charitable causes than the average citizen.
It is not calling on others to sacrifice that matters, what matters is direct personal action
“Gratitude Night” where each class member brought a guest who had been important in their lives but never properly thanked. Each student then read a letter properly thanking his or her guest. By the end of the evening, there wasn’t a dry eye in the class.
"Remove yourself from the daily press of activity for reflection."
Begin to think about your own life as a hero story. Who are you? What challenges have you overcome? What special talents do you have? How can you invest these talents in a series of new quests to develop a mastery that will lead to a more fulfilling life? Who will you choose as worthy travel companions? Who can you talk with who is further along in the journey to ask for directions? How can you make sure you take time to enjoy special moments and celebrate minor victories? Above all else, who will you choose to serve, so you can find yourself, changed, by first losing yourself?
Optimists make better salespeople and typically are more creative.
Long-term research on aging shows that you are far more likely to regret what you have not done, than to regret your errors and mistakes
As Paul said in Romans: “Suffering produces endurance and endurance produces character and character produces hope.”
Research shows the best time to face adversity is in your late teens and twenties. Don’t overprotect your children from the lessons adversity brings.
Practically every society on earth values the same virtues: honesty; wisdom and knowledge; courage; love and humility; justice; temperance; spirituality and transcendence. 61 The difficulty, rather, is in practicing virtue.
Fill your days with exercise, good food and other activities and sloth, indulgence and excessive amounts of ice cream soon will be crowded out.
Practice virtue when the pressures on you are minimal.
Stephen W. Gibson
Part of the process of becoming adults is deciding if the lenses that we see things through are the correct lenses for us. As we shift through different concepts, principles and facts we decide which we accept. As we do, we become independent thinkers.
For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then (In the resurrection we shall see things) face to face
Book of mormon- "And thus, in their prosperous circumstances, they did not send away any who were naked or that were hungry, or that were a thirst, or that were sick, or that had not been nourished; and they did not set their hearts upon riches; therefore they were liberal to all, both old and young, both bond and free, both male and female, whether out of the church or in the church, having no respect to persons to those who stood in need."
Money can make good men better, but on the other hand, from my experience, it usually makes bad men worse.
it is alright to seek after money, if we do it in the proper order, after we have received a hope in Christ. And if we seek after money to do good.
Joseph F. Smith "It has always been a cardinal teaching of the Latter-day Saints that a religion which has not the power to save people temporarily and make them prosperous and happy here on earth, cannot be depended upon to save them spiritually and exalt them in the life to come."
However just because you weren't born with the talent of playing the piano, that doesn't mean you can't learn how to play the piano. It is the same with making money.
Brigham Young said. "...if we are the people of God, we are to be the richest people on the earth...I am ashamed to see the poverty that exists among the Latter-day Saints. They ought to be worth millions and millions."
we should not "let our money sleep."
http://stoprmpoverty.com/about-us/our-curriculum/
Corey Bell
The richest place in the world is the graveyard. People die with so many dreams and missed opportunities.
The goal of my life is to live my life in such a way that there are not "what if" questions.
I don't like to hear the word "can't" everything is possible if you want it.
This world is bigger than me. I am taking something from it, how can I figure out how to give something back?
We are all called to be people that give back.
Randy Komisar
There is no balanced life being a CEO.
Balance is a dynamic question
never put yourself in a place that you can't say "no"
pay atention and ask yourself hard questions
have a group of people around you who know who you are, and they have values you respect
Meg Cadoux Hirshberg
If your kids are old enough, really ask them what it is that they need.
understand that others are reliant on your work.
discuss what you can about your business with your children
set cell phone rules
yes my business is critical but you matter more
Launching leaders
the formula for early retirement:
1. the david be hait 6 step formula for success
2. a terrific marriage partner
3. principles from the richest man in babylon
if your willing to pay the price for a few years and set meaningful goals, you find the secret to success.
1. pay yourself first.
I also realized that I am really bad at resting. I am an anxious person and am always needing to do something. That's why I love to have a job and struggle now that I am a stay-at-home mom. I find myself making bad habits. I am constantly distracting myself to appease my busy mind. I am also always multitasking, when I know that studies show multitasking to actually be less productive. If I could just focus my attention and learn to master the tasks and enjoy the work, I would be much happier. I tend to create a long list of little things to do, and then sit down and surf the internet or facebook. It starts out as a productive thing, such as sending a message to my visiting teaching companion, or looking up youtube videos for tips on how to organize a cleaning closet or cook a chicken dinner, but it ends up taking too much time and attention, as I just get more and more distracted.
I have also though a lot this week about how to organizing my time. I tend to get absorbed into projects and don't want any interruptions whatsoever. Now that I have a new baby, I get interrupted all the time. I'm learning how to balance my schedule.
Journal questions:
- What is your attitude toward money?
I used to hate money. Then I had a boyfriend who said that was nonsense. And I continued to hate money anyway. Since I have taken a few business classes, I have learned more about money. The truth is that I didn't understand it. I hated money because I felt like it limited me and people who had it always seemed to use it unrighteously. I have since learned how to make my money work for me. I have always been good at controlling spending, but now I better understand how money works and how I can use it as an effective tool.
- How can your view of money affect the way you live?
- What rules are recommended for prospering?
Rule 1. Seek the Lord and have hope in him
Rule 2. Keep the commandments, that includes the temporal ones, tithing and fast offerings.
Rule 3. Think about money and plan how you can become self-reliant.
Rule 4. Take advantage of chances for learning so you will not be ignorant of these matters. Education, as President Hinckley has taught us, is the Key to Opportunity.
Rule 5. Learn the laws upon which the blessings of wealth are predicated.
Rule 6. Do not send away the naked, the hungry, the thirsty or the sick or those who are held captive.
Acton
I also get obsessive when I start any project. I don't want to be interrupted. I'll get so far into a "flow" that sometimes I forget to eat, or drink water, or I even ignore the need to go to the bathroom. When I finally take a break, I don't know what to do with myself, use the restroom, eat, or sleep. This is especially tricky now that I have a new baby. They tend to interrupt a lot. I'm learning how to function under these new conditions.
I always hated money. Then I had a boyfriend who told me that was nonsense. I didn't agree with him and stayed in my money hating ways. The truth is I just didn't understand money. All I knew is that it limited me and a lot of people use money selfishly. After some business classes, I am really understanding money much better. I was always good at controlling my spending, but now I am learning how to make money and how to make my money work for me. Now I see that money can be a good thing. I see that it is controllable and doesn't have to limit me.
shared couplet - "You do not find truth groveling through error. You find truth by searching the holy word of God.
"Let us turn to a news release I once read from Los Angeles: “A blind father rescued his tiny daughter from drowning in the new swimming pool that had been installed in the neighborhood.” Then the story went on to describe just how this had been accomplished. The blind father had heard a splash when his little girl, who could not swim, fell into the pool. He was frantic and wondered how he might help her. It was evening, and she was the only one in the pool. He got upon his hands and knees and crawled around the outside edge of the pool and listened for the air bubbles that came from that little girl, as she was actually in the process of drowning. Then, with a heightened sense of hearing, he followed carefully the sound of those air bubbles and, in one desperate attempt, with love in his heart and a prayer within his soul, he jumped into the pool and grasped his precious daughter and brought her to the side and to safety. Love prompts such miracles."
First, fill your mind with truth; second, fill your life with service; and third, fill your heart with love.
Acton Continuing to seek challenges and having friends of all ages is much more important than income.
"Sensual pleasures—good food, drink and sex—can bring great joy to life. But these are treats that must be sampled sparingly, because enjoyment drops off sharply if the experiences are repeated too frequently. The first taste of an ice cream cone can bring intense pleasure; the last spoonful from a gallon of ice cream may leave you feeling disgusted."
As Shakespeare noted: “Things won are done; joy’s soul lies in the doing.”
"Once pleasure becomes an end in itself, rather than a byproduct of a life well lived, unbridled hedonism transforms sensual cravings into empty habits, and finally, leads to destructive addictions."
"Studies show that the effects of even major life changes will fade within three months."
"Within weeks, even major lottery winners are no happier than they were before winning."
"we routinely predict that as individuals we will be happier in the future."
"We tend to enjoy being victims. We focus on slights and magnify pain until we are obsessed with past hurts instead of future possibilities. We go to therapists and focus on ourselves and our past, for hours and years on end, even though studies show psychotherapy provides little benefit and that there is no measurable effect from traumatic childhood events on our adult lives. “What goes right in childhood predicts the future far better than what goes wrong,” unless we insist on feeding painful thoughts. We may feel we cannot get bad thoughts out of our minds, but studies show that “emotions, left to themselves, will dissipate” and you will return to your inherited baseline of happiness."
"We seek unconditional love but rarely offer the same in return. Instead, we prefer to compare ourselves to others in ways that make us feel superior. We are masters at rationalization and prone to hypocrisy."
This real-world Hero’s Journey is about being of the world (understanding where you come from); being in the world (understanding the world as it is and others as they are); and being above the world (connecting with the transcendent)
"During flow, people became so absorbed in the task that they lost track of time. Hours passed without notice. Concern for self disappeared"
We like challenges, particularly those that play to our strengths.
"Always have friends from three generations: the generation below to add freshness and energy, your generation for understanding and companionship, and a generation older for perspective and wisdom."
"Those who look back on life with a strong sense of gratitude are more likely to recognize and seize an opportunity when it presents itself."
People who volunteer and give to charity are happier, more satisfied and more fulfilled than those who do not
"The afterglow of pleasurable activities (hanging out with friends, or watching a movie, or eating a hot fudge sundae) pales in comparison with the effects of a kind gesture. Research shows that when spontaneous charitable acts reinforce personal virtues, your whole day goes better. "
Despite what you hear on television and during political campaigns, Americans are the most generous people on the planet. Generosity is one of our most widely held values; in any given year, 89% of us will contribute money or volunteer in the service of others; most will do both...Those who advocate government redistribution turn out to give far less to charitable causes than the average citizen.
It is not calling on others to sacrifice that matters, what matters is direct personal action
“Gratitude Night” where each class member brought a guest who had been important in their lives but never properly thanked. Each student then read a letter properly thanking his or her guest. By the end of the evening, there wasn’t a dry eye in the class.
"Remove yourself from the daily press of activity for reflection."
Begin to think about your own life as a hero story. Who are you? What challenges have you overcome? What special talents do you have? How can you invest these talents in a series of new quests to develop a mastery that will lead to a more fulfilling life? Who will you choose as worthy travel companions? Who can you talk with who is further along in the journey to ask for directions? How can you make sure you take time to enjoy special moments and celebrate minor victories? Above all else, who will you choose to serve, so you can find yourself, changed, by first losing yourself?
Optimists make better salespeople and typically are more creative.
Long-term research on aging shows that you are far more likely to regret what you have not done, than to regret your errors and mistakes
As Paul said in Romans: “Suffering produces endurance and endurance produces character and character produces hope.”
Research shows the best time to face adversity is in your late teens and twenties. Don’t overprotect your children from the lessons adversity brings.
Practically every society on earth values the same virtues: honesty; wisdom and knowledge; courage; love and humility; justice; temperance; spirituality and transcendence. 61 The difficulty, rather, is in practicing virtue.
Fill your days with exercise, good food and other activities and sloth, indulgence and excessive amounts of ice cream soon will be crowded out.
Practice virtue when the pressures on you are minimal.
Stephen W. Gibson
Part of the process of becoming adults is deciding if the lenses that we see things through are the correct lenses for us. As we shift through different concepts, principles and facts we decide which we accept. As we do, we become independent thinkers.
For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then (In the resurrection we shall see things) face to face
Book of mormon- "And thus, in their prosperous circumstances, they did not send away any who were naked or that were hungry, or that were a thirst, or that were sick, or that had not been nourished; and they did not set their hearts upon riches; therefore they were liberal to all, both old and young, both bond and free, both male and female, whether out of the church or in the church, having no respect to persons to those who stood in need."
Money can make good men better, but on the other hand, from my experience, it usually makes bad men worse.
it is alright to seek after money, if we do it in the proper order, after we have received a hope in Christ. And if we seek after money to do good.
Joseph F. Smith "It has always been a cardinal teaching of the Latter-day Saints that a religion which has not the power to save people temporarily and make them prosperous and happy here on earth, cannot be depended upon to save them spiritually and exalt them in the life to come."
However just because you weren't born with the talent of playing the piano, that doesn't mean you can't learn how to play the piano. It is the same with making money.
Brigham Young said. "...if we are the people of God, we are to be the richest people on the earth...I am ashamed to see the poverty that exists among the Latter-day Saints. They ought to be worth millions and millions."
we should not "let our money sleep."
http://stoprmpoverty.com/about-us/our-curriculum/
Corey Bell
The richest place in the world is the graveyard. People die with so many dreams and missed opportunities.
The goal of my life is to live my life in such a way that there are not "what if" questions.
I don't like to hear the word "can't" everything is possible if you want it.
This world is bigger than me. I am taking something from it, how can I figure out how to give something back?
We are all called to be people that give back.
Randy Komisar
There is no balanced life being a CEO.
Balance is a dynamic question
never put yourself in a place that you can't say "no"
pay atention and ask yourself hard questions
have a group of people around you who know who you are, and they have values you respect
Meg Cadoux Hirshberg
If your kids are old enough, really ask them what it is that they need.
understand that others are reliant on your work.
discuss what you can about your business with your children
set cell phone rules
yes my business is critical but you matter more
Launching leaders
the formula for early retirement:
1. the david be hait 6 step formula for success
2. a terrific marriage partner
3. principles from the richest man in babylon
if your willing to pay the price for a few years and set meaningful goals, you find the secret to success.
1. pay yourself first.
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